When Candice fell pregnant and stepped into the motherhood playing field, she found her experience bore little resemblance to the glossy magazine experience in Great Britain today. Leafing through the piles of prenatal paraphernalia, she found herself wondering: “Where are all the black mothers?”.
Candice started blogging about motherhood in 2016 after making the simple but powerful observation that the way motherhood is portrayed in the British media is wholly unrepresentative of our society at large. The author writes with humour, but with straight-talk about facing hurdles such as white privilege, racial micro-aggression and unconscious bias at every point.
**I Am Not Your Baby Mother: Redefining Motherhood in Britain** Dive into the vital and unflinchingly honest world of motherhood with "I Am Not Your Baby Mother," a groundbreaking book by Candice Brathwaite, featuring a foreword by Florence Given. This isn't your typical parenting guide filled with picture-perfect imagery; instead, Brathwaite delivers a raw, relatable, and deeply necessary perspective on being a Black mother in contemporary Britain. In "I Am Not Your Baby Mother," Candice Brathwaite confronts the pervasive lack of representation of Black mothers in British media and challenges the whitewashed narrative that dominates the parenting landscape. Inspired by her own experiences navigating pregnancy and motherhood, where she felt unseen and unheard within the existing framework, Brathwaite launched her influential blog in 2016. This book expands upon that work, offering a powerful and poignant exploration of the unique challenges and triumphs faced by Black mothers. Brathwaite doesn't shy away from difficult conversations. With sharp wit and unflinching honesty, she tackles uncomfortable truths about white privilege, racial microaggressions, and unconscious bias encountered at every stage of the motherhood journey from prenatal care and childbirth to navigating schools and playgrounds. She sheds light on the systemic inequalities that Black mothers face, offering a much-needed counter-narrative to the often-sanitized version of motherhood presented in mainstream media. But this book isn't just about highlighting the challenges; it's also a celebration of Black motherhood. Brathwaite creates a space for Black mothers to feel seen, validated, and empowered. She shares personal anecdotes, offering solidarity and camaraderie to those who have felt isolated or misrepresented. The book fosters a sense of community and encourages open dialogue about the complexities of raising children in a society that often fails to acknowledge or celebrate diversity. More than just a memoir, "I Am Not Your Baby Mother" is a call to action. It urges readers to critically examine the way motherhood is portrayed and to actively work towards creating a more inclusive and equitable environment for all mothers. By sharing her own experiences and insights, Brathwaite ignites a conversation that is long overdue and inspires meaningful change. Florence Given's foreword adds another layer of depth to this already powerful book. Known for her feminist activism and insightful commentary on social issues, Given lends her voice to amplify Brathwaite's message and underscore the importance of intersectionality in discussions about motherhood. "I Am Not Your Baby Mother" is essential reading for anyone interested in parenting, race, social justice, or simply understanding the diverse experiences of women in Britain today. It's a book that will challenge your assumptions, broaden your perspective, and leave you feeling inspired to create a more inclusive and equitable world for all mothers and children. This 240-page hardcover published by Quercus in 2020 is a significant contribution to the conversation around motherhood.